Japenese dating and marriage

20-Oct-2017 01:53

In recent weeks, people have posted stories to the aggregator website Matome Naver, telling how in one case, a colleague married their friend of 10 years.The trend has been coined “Kousai zero Nichikon”: roughly translated as “marrying without dating”.In this article, I want to talk about a few major differences I saw between Japanese and American dating cultures.Among Japanese teenagers the most basic way of starting to date someone is by giving them a “kokuhaku” or love confession.We'll bet a dinner and beer that the first case will far outnumber the second. However, let's take a closer look the difference for a moment.

The next time you're walking around in Tokyo, try this quick experiment: look for couples comprising a Western man and a Japanese woman, and count them. Now look for the opposite: Japanese men with Western women. If we look at official statistics for Japanese residents from Western countries (as of the 2016 census), men certainly outnumber women in Japan—by a ratio of almost 2-to-1 if we exclude short-term residents and diplomats (it's 3-to-2 if they're included).

In Japan, women can confess their love so it’s not strange if we ask a man out but in America, it seems that women tend to wait for men to ask them out.

This was a little strange to me because I wasn’t sure what to do if I was really into someone.

By comparison, there were 50 British brides to Japanese men in 2014 and 44 in 2015.

This gives us a ratio of just under 5-to-1 in favor of men.

The next time you're walking around in Tokyo, try this quick experiment: look for couples comprising a Western man and a Japanese woman, and count them. Now look for the opposite: Japanese men with Western women. If we look at official statistics for Japanese residents from Western countries (as of the 2016 census), men certainly outnumber women in Japan—by a ratio of almost 2-to-1 if we exclude short-term residents and diplomats (it's 3-to-2 if they're included).

In Japan, women can confess their love so it’s not strange if we ask a man out but in America, it seems that women tend to wait for men to ask them out.

This was a little strange to me because I wasn’t sure what to do if I was really into someone.

By comparison, there were 50 British brides to Japanese men in 2014 and 44 in 2015.

This gives us a ratio of just under 5-to-1 in favor of men.

This isn’t a problem for Japanese men who usually will arrange a date at a very cheap cafe and still expect me to pay my share!